Prayers 🙏🏻for Widows

Prayers 🙏🏻 for Widows

I’ve had several friends that have had their husbands pass away in the last six months. Mine passed away over two years ago. It’s through our precious memories that we remember and hold our loved ones in our hearts and minds.

It is through the love I have for each of my friends, I felt the need to write this blog.

As a widow who has also had to deal with the loss of a spouse and other loved ones. I understand a little how to give support and unconditional love without telling another widow how to grieve. God has made us uniquely different, and we all deal with our circumstances of grief differently. A widow will feel numb, lost, scared and alone. It takes healing time, some more than others. A lot depends upon the years of marriage and the closeness of the relationship. No, the loss of a loved one never completely heals, but our lives move on.

Widows will experience a lot of the unknowns as to how to take care of things our husbands used to do. They need to learn how to do some of these things on her own, depending on her age & health. It’s a new learning process, that will make her stronger and build up herself confidence. Children should realize during this time it will be a difficult adjustment for their mother, because she has known & loved him much longer than they have. (*** Note here – For the widows who married him later in life, her love was deep & true and she should be given the same love, thoughtfulness and grace.) Anxiety, depression, quietness and loneliness  are apart of her life, especially her nights will be much different from before. 🙏🏻Pray for her often!

Each widow will also deal with a boatload of stressful situations brought on by financial issues, probate and getting things done by certain time limits. Adult children, step-children and grandchildren who may have been closely involved or not prior to his death end up putting their own stresses and issues upon the widow, particularly if there were any changes or surprises to the husband’s will. Many prayers 🙏🏻are needed for her and the support of a good friend!

Fear is one thing that widows need to beware of and overcome. Beginning a new and much different life after a loved one’s death is lonely and hard. Encouragement from family, close friends, church friends & a grief share group will be helpful and necessary!

If there is a family house pet it will be of great comfort during this time (especially at night), if not it’s something to consider getting at the proper time.

Getting back to work, being involved in church and/or community activities, hobbies (art, crafts, gardening, cooking/baking, music, teaching, … thus using God’s gifts and talents to glorify Him). Enjoying the simple everyday things in her life will be important to help her heal, rather than closing herself up at home. This will be helpful for her physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

Laughter is healing & healthy. A friend once referred endorphins as dolphins 🐬. When we laugh we’re releasing those endorphins, so we refer to dolphins 🐬 dancing on their tails or jumping in the air splashing into the water. 😂 Talking to a friend who says things that tickle your heart to laugh or watching a funny movie or tv show is necessary each day to get a good laugh out!🤣 This also helps chase away depression, quietness and loneliness too. I often put on my favorite music 🎶 to help silence the quietness, especially when I’m working around my home, walking, exercising, cooking, gardening, dancing and being creative. 🎼It’s Motivational Movement with Music 🎵!😁Try It! Oh, I wouldn’t want anyone watching me dance!😂

Each day offers us so many blessings, so look around to see what He is doing in your life and count your blessings! This hymn comes to mind “Count Your Many Blessings”. 

Protect your heart and your life by staying close to God! Trusting Him Only!  Remembering God’s strength is always sufficient for each day. It’s not going to be easy at all, but He never promised us that it would be. He promised He would be there with us through it all. One of my favorite verses in the Bible is Jeremiah 29:11-13 NIV

                       “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me WHEN you seek me with ALL your heart..”

I’ve capitalized two words that are most important.

I am blessed by God’s goodness to me and I want you to be as well.  So live life to its fullest, remembering each day is a gift to each of us! Thank Him and Trust Him with All your heart!

God’s Blessings to You!